The deepest, the sweetest

 

The first cut is the deepest, so says the song. But should we be talking about cuts and bruises – when we’re a day away from the V-day? Yay! We should celebrate, that’s the attitude. Yeah… πŸ˜‰

 

Blurred image of a street at night time

The heart does keep beating, uhuh./ http://www.tumblr.com

 

I mean, shouldn’t we be glad we’re centuries away from old practices? Yes, am talking about that tribe where a woman was supposed to expose herself to the elements – hails, snows and bears – come winter time because her husband or sons have been killed in the battle. Socially, she was expected to commit suicide, the first chance she could get. The premise being, a woman without a male in her life could not get along in life. Pretty hard and fierce, huh? That was in their milieu, in their time, in that particular tribe… Just happy I wasn’t born then and there. Well, would you? I didn’t think so… πŸ™‚

 

So, let’s go back to our topic of the day – romance or lack of, hehe. There is no argument that having a romantic relationship or being in one, is the best condition an adult could aspire to. Who wouldn’t want to be loved? Who would refuse a chance to love with all of one’s strength and might and shame? Everybody wants that, no kidding. Can everybody have that? Nah… That’s the sad part. Love doesn’t come everyday. Nor does it make a visit every other day. Not even once a week. It knocks at one’s door, let’s say, once or twice every three years. I mean, the ardent kind… And not all who knocks gets the benefit of an open door, gentle smile and warm hospitality. No. I don’t know if it’s a modern phenomenon but people nowadays, myself including, are very sparing and picky when it comes to offering visitors attention and affection…

 

Image of young children loving each other

People often remember the first time as the sweetest/ fionamcarthur.com

And so, Valentines Day approaches and all one could do was to go back to the first time his or her heart was broken, stepped on, fed to the dogs, etcetera… And deal with hazy memories of smiling foolishly because of nothing in particular. Of remembering sweetness. Tenderness. Dreaming wildly. Presuming all too hastily. Of recognizing oneself to be a silly and stupid and insane creature – in general… And being glad for it, for heaven’s sake! Well, that’s love: the first time. People say it’s the sweetest and its cut, the deepest. It goes straight to the core. It offsets one’s balance, it blurs the vision and it confuses one no end. It is debilitating, to say the least… It does not kill. Although most everyone would say that undergoing that phase is very similar to dying. I guess, it involves enduring a considerable amount of pain, yes.

 

But we survive, another day. To live out the pain, perhaps? To outgrow the silliness? To recoup sanity, hehe. To meet life at its terms, maybe? To learn that in the course of our travel, we Β come across Β a variety of experience – love and non-love. Acceptance and denial. Understanding and conflict. Real and surreal. Noble and gross. Down-to-earth and highfalutin’. Warm and cold. Near and distant. Welcoming and aloof. Kind and vile. All sorts… And for all our talks of having learned our lessons, knowing our limits and being wisened up somehow, we fall again… Into the dang pit and no wiser than the first time. Β Oh, well…

 

But that is just it. We do hope to spread love in its various forms and meet it as well, in the first corner. Uh, maybe that’s getting one’s hopes up – too soon and too close. Β At any rate, no one readily gives up, I guess. Love is about finding and being found. The search may take too long or there may just seem to be too many turns. But wherever and whenever, still, one hopes it to be deep and sweet, as the first time… And hopefully, enduring. πŸ˜‰

 

Image of hearts

Sending some love your way… πŸ˜‰ :)/ footage.shutterstock.com

 

Happy Hearts Day to all! Have a love-filled Valentines. πŸ™‚

 

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21 comments on “The deepest, the sweetest

  1. I think whether you have a love or not, if one can solace a broken-hearted soul – that’s a big V for valentine; hugs

  2. nadia says:

    Even if you try to be very sparing and picky when it comes to offering visitors attention and affection, when all the stars align you’ll find yourself throwing all the caution to the wind πŸ˜‰

    V day is overrated. Let’s celebrate love everyday!

    • hey, Nadia dear… am going to wait for that time when all the stars will align, hehe. it must be a good feeling – to be able to throw all cautions to the wind. πŸ˜‰

      is it then? let’s do… πŸ˜‰ happy valentines! πŸ™‚

  3. renxkyoko says:

    I guess it’s really a wonderful feeling to love and be loved … if it’s going to be love eternal….. otherwise, I better stay away from it, if i can. I have a feeling I’m going to take love failure really, really, really badly.
    Happy valentine’s day ! !

    • ahaha. you’re very romantic, Ren. i hope you find the right one and he comes along just in time, ahaha. hala, one lives, after a failed love, mind… πŸ˜‰

      Happy Valentines, too! warm regards πŸ™‚

  4. munchow says:

    Love is also about giving, about learning to understand each other, to open your mind. And of course be open to it when it appears at the door. I wish you happy Valentine’s day!

    • hello, sir Otto… Happy Valentines! πŸ™‚ oh, I survived another Valentines, hehe (we’re a day ahead), thank you… πŸ™‚ love is about giving, offering and understanding each other, i agree. and it does involve a lot of openness, yessir… oh, we always hope that love will find us in time and we will love just in time – the right loving, the right person. πŸ˜‰ regards and cheers!

  5. J.A. Vas says:

    what a great text you wrote there! as you soon can see, I wasn’t lying inactive on my lazy skin but did huge research in the internet. I wanted to (playfully) share some songs with you. songs about love. but it’s hard to find inspiring lyrics – inspiring as yours are! πŸ™‚ what a pity! 😦 so I start my answer with an instrumental song. (just wanted to drop some hint: no need to listen to all this stuff ;D )

    Dino Saluzzi, “Romance”
    http://www.goear.com/listen/50ce7a6/romance-dino-saluzzi

    okay just jump over to the pinkish side of smoochie-boochie-trallalatrallala kuschel rock…
    Peter Cetera, “Glory of Love”

    Josh Hinck seems to have failed being a hero and supporter like Peter promised to be…
    Confession of Faith, “Wither”
    http://archive.org/download/wither_745/wither_745_vbr_mp3.zip
    I slowly turn laying virtue asunder
    Entreating love come hither (to me)
    Standing before her clad in disease
    I see all things wither in her
    My fleeting eyes see her with deathly pallor
    My worthlessness brings me here to lie
    I fill my cup over with deceit
    I see all things die
    In her eyes I see hordes writhing without aim
    In her eyes I see tears that are only for my shame
    Show to me love for it’s nowhere to be found
    There buried shallowly beneath the ground (in her)
    In her eyes I see hordes writhing without aim
    In her eyes I see tears that are only for my shame
    Here I stand complacency upon my lips while harboring
    Fear and loathing, self-deception
    Vanity whose lips are so sweet
    Then I feed these pale children
    Cowering before me like dogs
    I take their hands and lead them down
    To view the setting of the sun
    Where myself and the world
    We decline as one

    of course what never has to be forgotten or left out from a playlist about love, it’s some girl being blown, thus just breathing some really handsome aaaaaaaaa-aaaaaa-aaaa-aaaaaaaaaaaa
    Zbigniew Preisner, “Love”

    maybe too much kitsch?
    The Fall, “Funnel of love”

    Here I go,
    Falling down, down, down,
    My mind is a blank,
    My head is spinning around and around,
    As I go deep into the funnel of love.
    It’s such a crazy, crazy feeling,
    I get weak in the knees,
    My poor old head is a reelin’,
    As I go deep into the funnel of love.
    I tried and I tried, to run and hide,
    I even tried to run away,
    You just can’t run from the funnel of love,
    It’s gonna get you someday.
    It’s such a crazy, crazy feeling,
    I get weak in the knees,
    My poor old head is a reelin’,
    As I go deep into the funnel of love.
    I tried and I tried, to run and hide,
    I even tried to run away,
    You just can’t run from the funnel of love,
    It’s gonna get you someday.
    Here I go, falling down, down, down,
    My mind is a blank,
    My head is spinning around and around,
    As I go deep into the funnel of love,
    Deep into the funnel of love,
    Deep into the funnel of love.

    so love is really mysterious, huh?
    Saviour Machine, “Love Never Dies”

    And the children shall lead the angels at play in the fields of slaves.
    For man is the hunted, accused and forsaken and slain by his own domain.
    The diamonds edge will cut the eyes of the paper mask in paradise.
    The fools of fortune paint their portraits
    On carnal crimes and lonely lies.
    The tides of war that crash within,
    To break the heart and leash the skin,
    A man waits the child inside,
    To end his bloody reign in time.
    Love never dies–love never denies,
    Love never lies–love desperately cries,
    Unto the other side,
    Unto the unborn child in your eyes.
    Walk by faith and walk by sight,
    You’re sanctified with blood and light,
    In days of roses, nights sublime,
    The prince of passion lives divine.
    Love never dies–love never denies,
    Love never lies–love desperately cries,
    Unto the other side,
    Unto the unborn child in your eyes.
    I will rise in your eyes.

    which leads me back to just let the music “speak”
    World’s End Girlfriend, “daydream loveletter”

    all the best to you, πŸ™‚
    J.A.

    • hello, J.A.! so glad you dropped by and stayed a while, really. thank you for everything you shared, greatly appreciated. πŸ™‚ i like the Love by Preisner and Romance by Dino Saluzzi. The Funnel of Love is cool and of course, Savior Machine’s. Btw, did you know that I listened to several Savior Machine music so I could write my old post – Writing Wounded? ahaha.

      love the cat poster in the end, hahaha. the expression on its face is adorable, really made me laugh. hey, thank you for the mini-slam book that you just did. hope things are well. hope V-day went without untoward incidents, hehehe. πŸ˜‰

  6. ladyfi says:

    Love can be found in many ways and through different people. Sending you some warm hugs.

  7. Love certainly does cut sweet and deep… At least, the kind that’s worth it. Sending you love (while secretly sighing with relief that Valentine’s Day has passed) πŸ˜‰

    • hello, Alarna… yes, am afraid it does, gladly so and sadly so, ahaha. but some did cut deep and you wonder afterwards why you’re so foolish – some judgment, huh… ^^ i sigh in relief, too and send you some love likewise… πŸ™‚

  8. June says:

    Sigh, I wish I can trim my reader so I can read precious post like this just in time.
    Hi Ate San! Happy Hearts month. πŸ˜€

  9. bagotilyo says:

    patapos na ang feb-ibig month . late ko na nabasa to eh di sana nag-emo este nainspire ako..

    hahaha..

    Huli man daw at huli talga.. Happy hearts month ate susan πŸ™‚

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